What is counselling?
People seek counselling for different reasons. You may want to understand something better, you may want to be free of pain, or you may want to work out how to take your next step. Whatever your reason, your hopes and aims will help the work go well: we usually start by talking about them. Occasionally a person is not sure what they are wanting – they just know that it will help to talk. Often a person has tried everything they can think of, but they still end up in the same sort of mess over and over. This is exactly what counselling is good for.
Why people use counselling
People who use counselling say they like the feeling of “not being judged”. As you come to trust that you are not criticised you find you are able to speak more freely. What you then find yourself saying is often helpful. I will make sure you listen to yourself and reflect on the things you say. By listening carefully to what you say, drawing on my training and experience, I use kind questions and reflections to help you get what you came for. I will not talk about my own life, or offer advice, but I will make reflections to help you think things through. Everyone is different and each person will get a different approach in therapy. Counselling will not tell you how to live your life. It will help you look at your situation in ways which give you possibilities of what to do next. Which possibility you choose will be up to you. The aim is for you to reach conclusions which you could not have reached on your own. Counselling often becomes a journey of discovery.
Support or exploration?
Counselling consists of relaxed, friendly talking. It uses a mixture of support and exploration to help people with their difficulties. There is more support in times of trouble, or when you are depleted or embattled by your situation. There is more exploration when you are wanting to understand what is going on, so that you can make changes.
The therapy I offer also involves guided awareness exercises to help you become aware of your own bodily feelings. Physical touch is never used. Counselling sessions last for 60 minutes and take place at planned times. Sessions can be one-off or at any interval to suit. Counselling ends whenever you say it is finished.